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Pure Empathy is...
...an ability to become a fully relational,
fully alive, vibrant flourishing human being,
able to listen not only to others,
but to ourselves and to the energy of life
that flows through us,
connecting us to all that is ‘One’.
When we live our lives through Empathy,
we see life and are living life from
a foundation of kindness and compassion
which in turn supports us
in becoming more than we already are
and offers the same to all those that
we come into contact with.
...a state of living, or a state of ‘being’ in which,
in each and every moment, within our everyday
human lives, we develop a deep respect
for the journey of our soul within the human experience underpinned by an ever-evolving awareness
that we are all ‘One’.
Our thoughts, our actions and our words
demonstrate our desire to live in a manner
that benefits all of humanity and the world at large.
We aspire to become more than we already are
and we desire to live in a manner
that honors this Oneness.
"This book is overflowing with kindness, insight, depth and above all...love."
Katherine Woodward Thomas, New York Times Bestselling Author of Calling in "The One"
7 Steps to Spiritual Empathy
Learn to Listen... Change Your Life...
Empathy is so much more than a Cognitive Listening Skill
Katherine Woodward Thomas,
New York Times Bestselling Author of Calling in "The One"
“In the midst of today’s hectic pace of life this beautifully written book thoughtfully reminds us that first and foremost, we are relational beings. It is through relating and within relationship that we find meaning in our lives.
Jenny’s insightful and yet pragmatic approach to greater emotional awareness awakens us to the love that is possible in each moment we share with others.
This book is overflowing with kindness, insight, depth and above all...love.”
"Anyone who is keen to help humanity should read this book…. Empathy is indeed what the world over needs. Finding meaning within ourselves is indeed the key and this is exactly what the author gives us; that dimension of, as she puts it, “to navigate through life” and encouraging us to be “emotionally and spiritually curious” whatever your own faith/beliefs may be.
Reading this book is an empowering and interesting journey, very thought provoking and is a diamond for the soul and self discovery."
"Beautifully written and very accessible! In a day and age when we are all so busy with the material side of our lives, this book presents us with a chance to embrace our spiritual needs and the way the book has been presented, in short chapters, with an interactive invitation at the end of each chapter, will work well for even the busiest of us.
For myself, reading it has reminded me that there is definitely need for a little more balance between my physical and spiritual needs!"
This book is a must for all. It reminds us of the importance of noticing our internal worlds, and how we can care for others when we first notice and take care of ourselves. The book is beautifully written and the structure makes it easily accessible."
"Wonderfully accessible route to understanding more about the importance of emotional awareness for yourself and others. I loved the style of writing and the structure to follow along with the set exercises which build gently to a greater knowledge.
A must read in times where kindness and understanding of others can seem missing."
This is exactly the book I've been waiting for! It is a must read for anyone who wants to empower themselves to transform their life but are not sure how to achieve it. In bite size chunks the author takes the reader through the steps to self awareness and opens the mind to the interconnectedness of our emotions, thoughts and conscious actions and how this can positively impact our relationships with others and the world generally.
This book has helped me to understand the steps I need to take to move forward on my own journey and the information is so multi layered that I believe it will speak to everyone who reads it and provide them with a blueprint for their own personal growth. I would also highly recommend utilising the free meditation download that it comes with as it reinforces the written material perfectly.
Accessible, inspiring and brilliant.
I can't wait for the next book in the series! Highly Recommended!!"
"This easily accessible book provides insight into how our relationship with our feelings affects our both our peace of mind and our capability in the world. It provides an excellent tool kit to address our issues with “difficult” feelings and learn how to embrace and accept them in service of the development of a calm, purposeful and richer life."
Each chapter in this book will make you think about how you relate to yourself and others in various situations.
As a person who spends most of their waking life immersed in the business world, I would love to see this book embraced by managers and leaders who can apply Jenny's wisdom every day.
Bite-sized chapters and supporting materials make the book practical and appealing to the impatient, time-poor people who need it most."
“We live in a universe of dynamic fields of energy, a dynamic universe that includes ourselves. We are intricate energy systems, fields transcending our physical bodies and reaching out to touch and influence other energy systems.”
Born 1950. Author of The Celestine Prophecy, Lecturer, Screenwriter & Film Producer.
The Dynamic and Transformational Power of Empathy
Are you interested in the power of conscious choice?
Do you understand the role that your emotions play in your capacity for conscious living?
Do you feel as though you are in charge of the decisions that you make in your life; in charge of navigating your own journey?
We are becoming increasingly aware of the power and influence of our extraordinary mind in co-creating our journey throughout our lives and there are numerous books and numerous scientific studies that are connecting both the science and the spirituality of energy, and indeed our human capacity for conscious choice and influence within this sphere. However, our mind is only one part of the picture; it is only one piece of the jigsaw.
It has been my privilege to walk alongside literally hundreds of people as they have journeyed from the chaos of living from an emotionally reactive position, to a place of integrated living where their emotions fuel and feed their capacity to navigate their lives from a position of conscious, reflective choice. Indeed, the journey of my own life has shown me through and through, that our emotions play an absolutely integral role in our ability to heal, to grow and to thrive.
If you are interested in deepening your emotional awareness and in developing your emotional intelligence in ways that enhance conscious co-creative living, then this book is for you.
This book is designed to be read in 7 days, with approximately 15-20 minutes of reading each day. If as adults we are the author of our own experience, then how do we become fully present and fully available to navigate our journey through life with conscious intention? How do we find ways that will enable us to be actively and consciously co-creative, mindful of our choices and indeed mindful of the consequences of our choices?
The answer is Empathy.
Empathy isn’t simply a listening ear and something that we can offer others. In essence, true empathy is a state of being. When we live empathically, we can relate with our full experience of life at a level of mindful and conscious awareness. Awareness of ourselves, awareness of others, and awareness of a greater, universal intelligence of which we are an integral and dynamic part.
Empathy is the very fabric of relatedness.
Living through empathy IS living through relationship. It is about being fully relational, and fully present to our entire experience. When we engage with life through empathy we create a relational connection with life itself.
“I've worked all my life on the subject of awareness, whether it's awareness of the body, awareness of the mind, awareness of your emotions, awareness of your relationships, or awareness of your environment.
I think the key to transforming your life is to be aware of who you are.”
Born 1947. Author, Philosopher, Public Speaker, Alternative Medicine Advocate.
An Exert from Chapter 4
“We must say "no" to what, in our heart, we don't want.
We must say "no" to doing things out of obligation, thereby cheating those important to us of the purest expression of our love.”
Author, Innovator, Founder of Statistics be Darned.
An Exert from Chapter 4
The Fourth Principle of Empathy. ‘Respect’
Welcome to the fourth principle of empathy, Respect.
In the first principle of empathy, “the Space Within”, I spoke about the relationship and between space and boundaries.
Respect is a boundary.
Respect creates a boundary that recognizes and validates our individuality whilst simultaneously acknowledging and recognizing the validity of others. Respect shapes the energetic field both within us and around us and in doing so affords us the opportunity to be witness to any differences between ourselves and others without judgement. Respect creates an energetic field of mutuality, where despite our differences, we share a common desire for understanding.
Even though we cannot see it, respect is something that we can feel. It is a tangible and yet unseen experience. Hopefully most of us will know what it feels like to be treated with respect, even when faced with a difference of opinion, however, I suspect, with sadness, that most of us will also know what it feels like to be on the receiving end of a lack of respect or an inability on the part of another to consider our thoughts and opinions as valid, regardless of agreement.
Like many qualities, respect can be open to misrepresentation and manipulation. I have come across instances where respect is a word that is used in a way that I would consider to be inappropriate. Someone once told me that they respected their father, when in fact as our conversation emerged it became apparent that they feared their father.
Respect born of fear is not true respect.
True respect creates a boundary that denotes care and regard, a boundary that symbolizes the health and well-being of our own sense of entitlement, as well as our recognition and desire to support and validate the entitlement of others.
True respect acknowledges and validates the differences between us and therefore our unique individuality, indeed true respect celebrates difference. If we consider that a boundary or a structure defines the nature of the space within, then respect creates the quality of a space in which difference is welcomed as an opportunity for discovery, for learning, and therefore for growth.
So true respect creates definition within relationship. A space where both similarity and disagreement can be validated; a space where agreements can be discussed, negotiated and made, even if those agreements are in celebration of a difference of opinion.
True respect, acknowledges and validates our right and our opportunity, to discover and formulate our own opinions, to develop our ability to reflect and to make our own conscious choices; and it acknowledges and validates the rights of others to do the same.
When we engage with life through empathy, the quality of respect enables difference to be welcomed with interest, rather than received as a threat and as something to be defended against, and this creates possibility for learning and for growth. Doorways are open, and there is a mutual flow of both giving and receiving.
We often hear the term give and take in relationships. When I think about a healthy exchange, within a relationship, I prefer to think about giving and receiving. Giving and receiving are different to giving and taking. Taking and Receiving are not the same.
When we take, whoever or whatever we take from, may or may not have chosen to give to us, choice may be absent. However, when we receive, choice and healthy respect are inherently part of the exchange. Indeed, when we take, we deprive someone the opportunity of giving.
True empathy cannot exist without respect. Respect creates a purity in our relational exchange. Respect ensures that the exchange is non-judgmental, and non-directive whilst still maintaining a space of potential negotiation.
Yes and No are active participants in any form of negotiation and when they walk hand in hand with respect, they become key ingredients in our ability to embrace conscious and mindful choice. Yes and No are a dynamic relationship, they are two sides of the same coin, and yet many people struggle with this Yes/No partnership, particularly when it comes to saying No. Sometimes, people are afraid that saying No will make them an ungiving or an uncaring person. Actually, this is far from the truth.
When we say No to something that is inappropriate or unhealthy, by acknowledging that something isn’t okay, this recognition actually creates an opportunity for change. So, even if we find ourselves facing a challenging situation, in truth, saying a healthy No opens doorways of possibility.
When we say No in any unhealthy situation we are saying Yes to life.
In any exchange, and in any negotiation, regardless of the actual circumstance there is an underlying emotional currency involved, an underlying emotional exchange taking place, and both Yes and No have the potential to carry with them both a positive or a negative charge.
When someone gives us something by choice, born of free will, with love, desire and joy, as well as the actual something, the exchange will also carry the emotional gifts of love, desire and joy. The exchange will bring the feel-good factor with it. However, when something is given through obligation, guilt or fear the exchange will feel very different. On the surface the situation may appear to be identical, however, the underlying emotional exchange is made of some very challenging emotions. There is no feel-good factor here and the exchange is carrying a very different meaning. True respect comes without any obligation, there is no agenda and no ulterior motive, simply a desire to be open to both giving and receiving. There is a mutuality in the field between us, a mutuality in the exchange between us, and both yes and no remain the property of both parties.
Our ability to say both Yes and No from a position of self-responsibility defines our capacity to own our own choices, it defines our ability to do as we say and to walk our talk, and indeed, when needed, it demonstrates our ability to draw the line and to stand our ground, to hold onto and stand firm in the wisdom of our experience. When Yes and No are delivered with integrity, respect will be inherent in the exchange, and this forms an integral part of our capacity to engage fully in self-care, as well as in the care of those around us.
When we offer and treat ourselves with respect, we are developing self-respect. Self-respect fuels self-esteem. When our self-esteem and our inner sense of self value is healthy, we recognize our own needs and our own healthy limits and our own humanness. We recognize our autonomy and we take responsibility for negotiating our choices. When we offer and treat others with respect we recognize their needs, their opinions, and their differences. When we treat someone with respect we recognize their autonomy and therefore the responsibility that they have for their own actions.
I have a very dear friend who often uses the term “Tread Lightly through Life”. When he uses these words, he is referring to a gentle approach to life, where he strives to live respectfully, not to “tread on the toes” of others. He is however, no push over, and his clarity of boundaries would serve as a role model for us all. By treading lightly, he is striving to live from a position in which respect is woven into the very fabric of his considered choices and actions.
Living respectfully means living honorably.
Even when faced with inappropriate action on the part of others, in living respectfully, we demonstrate by example. When we live with honor we reinforce our own self-value and therefore our self-esteem......
"We will be known forever from the tracks we leave behind"
An Exercise in Awareness
A Daily Invitation. An Exercise in Listening.
My Thought for the Day
Living Respectfully is the Foundation of my Well-being.
Today I wish to invite you to deepen your awareness of what it means to “Tread Lightly” in your life. Where does respect sit in your interactions with yourself, with others and in your life in general?
My Thoughts and Suggestions
Take some time to bring your attention to your interactions and with the kinds of exchanges that have taken place during your day.
Have you felt respected and do you feel you have offered and shown respect to others?
Have your exchanges been mutually respectful?
Are there any situations in your life where you find yourself saying Yes, when you would have preferred to say No?
On our journey together, we have been learning to notice, to listen and to observe our emotions, without judgement or criticism. As you reflect, notice any underlying emotions that were part of the exchange, in both yourself as well as the other party and be mindful to consider these without judgement or blame. Respect isn’t something that we say, it is something that we do. We cannot be in charge of the actions of others. We are however, in charge of our own choices.
As you consider your own actions and interactions throughout the day, notice and ask yourself these questions;
Were my actions and interactions Considered?
Are the consequences of my actions and interactions Considerate?
Considerate of my own well-being?
Considerate of the well-being of others?
And Considerate of the well-being of the wider environment around me?
As we develop our ability to notice and as we deepen our awareness of the ways in which we ourselves are living and of the consequences and outcomes of our own actions, we can begin to consider how we ourselves might approach things differently. In doing so we take conscious charge of our ability to journey through life respectfully.
Our choices, our intentions and our actions are active in creating the kind of world that we wish to live in, and active in co-creating the kind of world that we wish to leave behind for future generations.
We have a choice.